I’ve worked several different places, both on a volunteer basis and for cash moneyyyyy. CHA-CHING!
Most every place I have worked has had some severe issues, namely ageism and sexism. I’m a 23 year old female, does that threaten you? Apparently, this is a problem for some women and men alike.
A determined young person, capable of flexibility and yet rigid in standing up for themselves, is a threat to some people. Some people fear this type of person’s attitude (which is typically positive) because they are either so insecure and/or jaded about themselves or their work that THEY CANNOT STAND OTHER PEOPLE BEING SUCCESSFUL LET ALONE REMOTELY HAPPY.
I’ve been harassed, assaulted, belittled, judged, backstabbed, frontstabbed, verbally abused, sent disturbing and/or rude emails, and probably experienced even more negativity I cannot recall or perhaps repressed.
I used to be somewhat quiet about my opinions at my various places of work, sensing the tension in the air, but then I realized most of the issues anyone had with me were not my problem – they were the manifestation and/or projection of other people’s problems DIRECTED AT ME.
There is a difference. The difference is you don’t have to take or stand for people treating you like shit, people disrespecting you and abusing you for absolutely no reason.
Who else has been cat-called while at work by “men”? Have you been stared at for wearing something nice and classy (I repeat nice and classy – not remotely revealing sexually)? Have people questioned your authority and expertise just because of your age – perhaps because you’re “young” and in your 20s? I doubt most men know how disgusting and vile this is, unless they have a daughter of their own who has experienced this situation.
How many young females have been victimized in some way by older women? How about the time my “supervisor” called me in (without letting me know what we were discussing) to talk about an issue I had with a male co-worker? That issue was me being harassed and assaulted. I didn’t even make it through the factual re-telling to the assault part before I was silenced by her telling me that this person would “never do that” and that they would “feel awful to know that I felt this way”. Damn, if my female “supervisor”, who point-blank told me she had experienced harassment or worse as she was promoted, won’t stand up for me then who will?
I don’t know if it’s this 9-5 grind that destroys people’s decent common courtesy or perhaps a breakdown of societal morals that’s ruining humanity in some ways, but what I’ve experienced personally during my few years in the working world since I started college has been absolute BULLSHIT.
And I know it’s worse for a lot of men and women out there, especially younger people. There’s still a caste system in several workplaces, while I understand you need to earn your job through your own work success, and the system is jacked up beyond belief and unacceptable.
I believe people are put in our world for a reason; maybe sometimes they are put in our way.
Be above it, rise above it, BUT DON’T STAND FOR IT.