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The way work shouldn’t be

I’ve worked several different places, both on a volunteer basis and for cash moneyyyyy. CHA-CHING!

Most every place I have worked has had some severe issues, namely ageism and sexism. I’m a 23 year old female, does that threaten you? Apparently, this is a problem for some women and men alike.

A determined young person, capable of flexibility and yet rigid in standing up for themselves, is a threat to some people. Some people fear this type of person’s attitude (which is typically positive) because they are either so insecure and/or jaded about themselves or their work that THEY CANNOT STAND OTHER PEOPLE BEING SUCCESSFUL LET ALONE REMOTELY HAPPY.

I’ve been harassed, assaulted, belittled, judged, backstabbed, frontstabbed, verbally abused, sent disturbing and/or rude emails, and probably experienced even more negativity I cannot recall or perhaps repressed.

I used to be somewhat quiet about my opinions at my various places of work, sensing the tension in the air, but then I realized most of the issues anyone had with me were not my problem – they were the manifestation and/or projection of other people’s problems DIRECTED AT ME.


Your rudeness is uncalled for, kindly step off.
(P.S. Yes, I drew this!)

There is a difference. The difference is you don’t have to take or stand for people treating you like shit, people disrespecting you and abusing you for absolutely no reason.

Who else has been cat-called while at work by “men”? Have you been stared at for wearing something nice and classy (I repeat nice and classy – not remotely revealing sexually)? Have people questioned your authority and expertise just because of your age – perhaps because you’re “young” and in your 20s?   I doubt most men know how disgusting and vile this is, unless they have a daughter of their own who has experienced this situation.

How many young females have been victimized in some way by older women? How about the time my “supervisor” called me in (without letting me know what we were discussing) to talk about an issue I had with a male co-worker? That issue was me being harassed and assaulted. I didn’t even make it through the factual re-telling to the assault part before I was silenced by her telling me that this person would “never do that” and that they would “feel awful to know that I felt this way”. Damn, if my female “supervisor”, who point-blank told me she had experienced harassment or worse as she was promoted, won’t stand up for me then who will?

I don’t know if it’s this 9-5 grind that destroys people’s decent common courtesy or perhaps a breakdown of societal morals that’s  ruining humanity in some ways, but what I’ve experienced personally during my few years in the working world since I started college has been absolute BULLSHIT.

And I know it’s worse for a lot of men and women out there, especially younger people. There’s still a caste system in several workplaces, while I understand you need to earn your job through your own work success, and the system is jacked up beyond belief and unacceptable.

I believe people are put in our world for a reason; maybe sometimes they are put in our way.

Be above it, rise above it, BUT DON’T STAND FOR IT.


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ABOUT AF: speaker, yoga instructor, writer, editor, reiki teacher, intuitive, musician, artist Alexandra Foran: Alexandra is an enthusiastic yoga instructor who enjoys sharing the gift of yoga and meditation with people of all ages. She is flexible and accommodating to all as she leads a practice from the heart. Extending warmth and love to all is a blessing for her. Yoga has personally helped her to heal and grow in profound ways. Yoga helps create balance and harmony; as someone who is highly intuitive, empathic, and a sensitive being she used to often be ill and regularly overextend herself -- she now seeks the peace that yoga can bring to her practice and life. As a poet, writer, musician and artist she infuses different aspects of the creative arts into her classes to create a higher vibration. During particular segments of her classes she uses guided imagery and live music. Alex plays upright bass, electric bass guitar, electric upright bass, violin, guitar, drums, rainmakers, baby harps, singing bowls, crystal bowls, recorders, and didgeridoo. Alexandra is a certified yoga instructor and a certified Reiki Master.


  1. What a great piece. I whole-heartedly agree. Having been at work for 20 years I can honestly say I only enjoyed 3 of them and the rest I either hated or despised. Bullying, aggressiveness, belittling, racism, sexism, bigotry against those with religion, incompetence by superiors that always comes back on you and just plain vindictiveness of any one better, talented or simply different.

    I am not at all argumentative, I don’t think I have ever had one so I would always wait to get my revenge even if it was subtle or very belated. Always set you stall out at the beginning because if you start off staying late, doing too much extra duties etc then they will always expect it of you and it will get worse.

    • Thank you, Stephen. The workplace has become an out of control place full of maliciousness and politics, now more than ever I think.

      It’s true, someone has to stand up for themselves and it must be YOU always because no one else should or will.

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