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You are not your parents

Everyone fears becoming their parents, EVERYONE. The matter is whether or not this fear is in the subconscious or the forefront of our minds.

It sometimes starts with someone else pointing out how similar you are to one of both of your parents, perhaps not only in looks but also in vocal inflection and mannerism. Then you start to notice things here and there, inside jokes, anxious ticks, and even reactionary behavior due to stress in life.

I’ve noticed my own little obsessive complexes that have perhaps been passed down via genes or learned behavior. Use of certain phrases or my reaction to stress which used to ALWAYS be anger. I wouldn’t ever really allow myself to get sad too often, but even as a child I could have a quick temper at times.

I also had problems with addiction, not drugs or alcohol but definitely addicted to harmful behavior and thrills. I used to be a perfectionist and people pleaser, always trying to make my parents happy. It’s great to respect your parents if they are worthy of respect BUT one should seek to please themselves and do what they need to for themselves first and foremost because true happiness lies within. If you can find peace within yourself you can spread it like wildfire to all those around you and help them find their pure inner happiness as well!

So, just remember that while you may be life your parents you are not your parents. We all have habits that we create in order to cope with our lives, and we can change those habits (in 21 days supposedly!). Continue to be conscious of what you no longer need in your life, actively get rid of it, and fill your life with love and positivity.



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ABOUT AF: speaker, yoga instructor, writer, editor, reiki teacher, intuitive, musician, artist Alexandra Foran: Alexandra is an enthusiastic yoga instructor who enjoys sharing the gift of yoga and meditation with people of all ages. She is flexible and accommodating to all as she leads a practice from the heart. Extending warmth and love to all is a blessing for her. Yoga has personally helped her to heal and grow in profound ways. Yoga helps create balance and harmony; as someone who is highly intuitive, empathic, and a sensitive being she used to often be ill and regularly overextend herself -- she now seeks the peace that yoga can bring to her practice and life. As a poet, writer, musician and artist she infuses different aspects of the creative arts into her classes to create a higher vibration. During particular segments of her classes she uses guided imagery and live music. Alex plays upright bass, electric bass guitar, electric upright bass, violin, guitar, drums, rainmakers, baby harps, singing bowls, crystal bowls, recorders, and didgeridoo. Alexandra is a certified yoga instructor and a certified Reiki Master.

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