Lately work has felt a bit stagnant, I still really enjoy what I do for my job BUT I don’t feel as challenged.
I’m also trying to make changes and share my ideas for how we should run our public relations, but it sometimes seems like my thoughts don’t really go anywhere or that people don’t really listen.
Which is why/how I found myself reading an article by Carrie Kerpen, who offers quality, honest advice on both personal and professional matters.
“Want to Be a Better Leader? Put Yourself First” was the first piece I read from her and she blew me away.
Carrie dropped 40 pounds, started taking zumba and spinning classes, met with a nutritionist, took an online course in business finance, went home to cook dinner for her family 3 times a week while maintaining the company she co-founded with her husband (Likeable Media) as she became the CEO and completed her professional goals — all in three months.
If that possibly run-on sentence of accomplishments doesn’t motivate you to take care of yourself in order to achieve your dreams I’m not really sure what will!
Plus, Carrie writes in a really fun way by weaving her personal life into her advice column. She’s not pretentious in the way she shares her opinions and thoughts, like some writers are especially when they are offering advice.
She’s the type of writer you feel like you know because her articles are so genuine and unassuming.
And she is incredibly honest about the way the workplace works, for women in particular. After quickly gobbling up the previous article I read a somewhat depressing but incredibly accurate article entitled, “Women: Watch Out for Your No. 1 Enemy”.
SPOILER ALERT: the judgment of women is women’s biggest problem in the workplace.
I couldn’t agree more. Even as an intern at workplaces I knew other women felt threatened by me, talked poorly about me, and basically groped together as if they were a high school clique in solidarity to stand against other women making progress within the companies I worked at.
It was sickening clear to me that this was a rampant problem and that many women judged other women based on their opinions – or perhaps for no real reason at all.
If older women who are older and hold management positions cannot help support other women, what hope is there for the future of women in the workplace? How incredibly disappointing and hypocritical this behavior is.
I’m not for shameless promoting or assisting women solely because they’re women, so please don’t confuse my dismay about this topic as a radically feminist point of view. I’m just sharing that given my personal experience it is unfortunate that women tend to have to work harder to validate themselves within the workplace and it doesn’t help when other women are fighting against them.
Carrie Kerpen specifically discusses the problem women have with never being right when they are parents: people are constantly fighting about whether “women are too career-focused or not career-focused enough”.
At the end of the piece Carrie says to women: “You do you.”
That’s an important message for both women and men to keep as a mantra. Be yourself! (And maybe laugh at yourself, like I do every day)
Both of these articles were what I needed to hear, Carrie writes in such a concise manner and articulates her points so well and gave great advice about topics that had been troubling me a lot lately.
Carrie’s work also helped me feel like I’m definitely not alone in what I’ve been thinking about and that a lot of the problems I face aren’t new. The concise manner she writes actually helped me define and pinpoint the problems I’ve been dealing with and pondering about for a while.
Both of these articles boiled down to one important word: YOU.
If you can instill change for yourself, then you’ll be more capable to create change and lead others. If you can stand up for yourself when faced with adversity, even from judging colleagues or just people in general, you will be better equipped to continue living life the way you see fit and grow regardless of people who may try to hold you back.
Taking charge in your own life means being a leader toward the accomplishment of your dreams, everything else will fall into place with the right attitude.