I’ve been thinking a lot lately about school in general but especially college and post-grad life. I’m beginning to wonder if there’s some sort of correlation between the vast amount of self-help books, amount of people in therapy, number of people blogging about their post-grad lives (or lives in general), and a lot of things just make me wonder what happens when people “become adults”.
It is sort of funny, when you think about it this way: when we’re kids a lot of the time all we want to do is be an adult and then once we are adults we often dream about being kids again. Maybe that infamous quote is true, “we always want what we can’t have”.
Well, guess what, we can still be kids in a certain sense if we want to be. “Adult” is just a term that we created, when I think of the word adult I think about “responsibilities” and “independence” first and foremost. Then I think about things that adults usually do: adults work, adults pay bills, adults discuss politics…damn, adults seem kind of boring!
In a way, our society and culture has kind of trained us to perceive adulthood as some form of hell. At times it can seem that way. The ever-constant bills, job obligations, and lack of time sometimes seems unbearable!
Yet, we should stop freaking out about our responsibilities. Everyone says it’s “part of growing up” but in reality we have had responsibilities since we were kids. We just used terms like “chores” or “school” instead, or maybe we didn’t use those terms at all and we just “did things”. As kids I’m sure many of us cleaned up after ourselves and maybe even our family, dressed ourselves regularly, dragged our butts to school and probably did an assortment of activities that we were “obligated” to do.
I challenge others, as well as myself, to take each day at a time and look at the different things you are going to do a bit differently if you become trapped in the I’m-sick-of-doing-this vicious cycle. I’m sure there’s at least a small aspect of what you do on a regular basis that is rewarding for you. Seeing a clean sink or knowing that you finished a report before the end of the day can be an awesome feeling.
Give yourself mini-highfives through the day (even though if you physically try to do it it’ll be a clap – learned this out the hard way when I was young). I think one of the most important things we forget once we’re adults is that we should lead fun lives and do things we love. If you’re not doing that already, get on it! Go climb a tree, read a book, watch a movie – whatever!
No matter what your age is, do what makes you happy.
Am I crazy to think this way!?