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Why do we freak out about being adults?

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about school in general but especially college and post-grad life. I’m beginning to wonder if there’s some sort of correlation between the vast amount of self-help books, amount of people in therapy, number of people blogging about their post-grad lives (or lives in general), and a lot of things just make me wonder what happens when people “become adults”.

It is sort of funny, when you think about it this way: when we’re kids a lot of the time all we want to do is be an adult and then once we are adults we often dream about being kids again. Maybe that infamous quote is true, “we always want what we can’t have”.

Well, guess what, we can still be kids in a certain sense if we want to be. “Adult” is just a term that we created, when I think of the word adult I think about “responsibilities” and “independence” first and foremost. Then I think about things that adults usually do: adults work, adults pay bills, adults discuss politics…damn, adults seem kind of boring!

In a way, our society and culture has kind of trained us to perceive adulthood as some form of hell. At times it can seem that way. The ever-constant bills, job obligations, and lack of time sometimes seems unbearable!

Yet, we should stop freaking out about our responsibilities. Everyone says it’s “part of growing up” but in reality we have had responsibilities since we were kids. We just used terms like “chores” or “school” instead, or maybe we didn’t use those terms at all and we just “did things”. As kids I’m sure many of us cleaned up after ourselves and maybe even our family, dressed ourselves regularly, dragged our butts to school and probably did an assortment of activities that we were “obligated” to do.

I challenge others, as well as myself, to take each day at a time and look at the different things you are going to do a bit differently if you become trapped in the I’m-sick-of-doing-this vicious cycle. I’m sure there’s at least a small aspect of what you do on a regular basis that is rewarding for you. Seeing a clean sink or knowing that you finished a report before the end of the day can be an awesome feeling.

Give yourself mini-highfives through the day (even though if you physically try to do it it’ll be a clap – learned this out the hard way when I was young). I think one of the most important things we forget once we’re adults is that we should lead fun lives and do things we love. If you’re not doing that already, get on it! Go climb a tree, read a book, watch a movie – whatever!

No matter what your age is, do what makes you happy.

Am I crazy to think this way!?


Maybe don’t answer that.

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ABOUT AF: speaker, yoga instructor, writer, editor, reiki teacher, intuitive, musician, artist Alexandra Foran: Alexandra is an enthusiastic yoga instructor who enjoys sharing the gift of yoga and meditation with people of all ages. She is flexible and accommodating to all as she leads a practice from the heart. Extending warmth and love to all is a blessing for her. Yoga has personally helped her to heal and grow in profound ways. Yoga helps create balance and harmony; as someone who is highly intuitive, empathic, and a sensitive being she used to often be ill and regularly overextend herself -- she now seeks the peace that yoga can bring to her practice and life. As a poet, writer, musician and artist she infuses different aspects of the creative arts into her classes to create a higher vibration. During particular segments of her classes she uses guided imagery and live music. Alex plays upright bass, electric bass guitar, electric upright bass, violin, guitar, drums, rainmakers, baby harps, singing bowls, crystal bowls, recorders, and didgeridoo. Alexandra is a certified yoga instructor and a certified Reiki Master.


  1. PoisonIB says

    Love this post and you’re not crazy. I am only 22, but I feel SO much older. I matured at a really young age and had responsibilities real early. Honestly, I am happy being an adult 🙂 I love the freedom and responsibilities in a weird way… Like you said seeing a clean a sink and finishing up work at the end of a long day gives me a rewarding feeling =) A lot of my friends who are older are so scared to “grow up” and of responsibilities and I feel like they are stuck LOL They are trying to stay “young” as long as possible, which is good and all… but growing up doesn’t mean being boring. Other things just make u happy 🙂

    • docommawrite says

      Thank you, it’s always great to hear someone else tell me I’m not nuts (besides the voices in my head [I kid])! That is too funny, I am also 22. We are so totally on the same wavelength LOL. Like you, I have always felt more mature than my peers. It can be a real pain, don’t you think? I think it is especially tough when you are a kid – you feel like you don’t “fit in” in a sense. I am glad you’re happy being an adult 🙂 I feel the same way! The freedom, the responsibilities, and even those small little rewarding moments you mentioned. You are right! So many people in our generation are not able to grow up. I can’t figure out why. I tend to think it all comes down to how you were raised. Like you said, you had responsibilities starting at a young age and maybe people who didn’t have that experience find the independence and obligations very challenging as they become adults. I love what you said about growing up not having to be boring and that other things just make you happy 🙂 SO TRUE!!!

      • PoisonIB says

        Oh wow, that is a funny coincidence that you are 22 as well.
        I’m telling you it’s weird being this “young” and feeling SO much more mature. I don’t have friends my age, which isn’t a bad thing but yea… Totally agree with your post and your comment! Sometimes I get annoyed that I can’t just be like the rest of the 22 year olds out there, but I have come to accept it and love it =) So happy to find someone else who feels the same 🙂 Woop woop 😉

  2. Right! Also, I don’t know why my comment didn’t send before :/ sorry for the delay ova here!! I totally get ya – I feel like an “old soul” sometimes even though I do like to go out and have fun. We’re just oxymorons I guess 😛 Haha I have a lot of older friends too! Thank you!! Glad to find another person out there who feels the same way 🙂 I’m lovin’ it! Very happy we stumbled upon each other’s blogs!! Woo!! 🙂 P.S. The internet doesn’t seem SO creepy right now @PoisonIB lol

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