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Is the internet killing our friendships?

I realize as I write this that I am being  hypocrite, but I don’t care! I constantly struggle with the desire and need to utilize the world wide webs I find myself fighting against it internally. The internet is a great tool, but I’m not sure if it’s always the best way to communicate.


I was all set to lead a weekly writing workshop this evening, but unfortunate circumstances got in the way. I was really looking forward to it because writing with a group and sharing work with other people really forces me to write. Sure, I give myself deadlines and ultimatums, but I know I’m just fooling myself. It’s hard to play good cop bad cop with only one person

“Aye, kid, get cho work done…or else!”

“Psh, don’t listen to that, you know it ain’t true.”  etc.

(Oh, my poor little bizarre mind, so strange!)

Thinking about this small little gathering which is part of my routine made me think about the broader ramifications of not seeing people on a regular basis. While I keep in touch with a lot of people online, some people I consider close friends, I realize that I am not really physically seeing people more as the years go by. (Granted, in regards to certain people, this may be for the best :P).

Experiencing things live is just so refreshing. Live music, plays, readings, lectures, conversations (etc.) become so much more meaningful.

Reality is real. (<–too clever for words!!)

Sure, I can feel inspired by reading or seeing certain works and I definitely have gleaned a lot of knowledge by reading online sources. Not only that, but I have been able to keep in touch with a lot of people I may not have been able to. Facebook and other sites have been a great way for me to check in with a lot of people. But, Facebook has also been an easy way for people to somewhat check out of close relationships.

I cannot tell for sure whether or not we’re becoming less social beings in person, but I think we are from what I have seen. Here’s an interesting article that explains the sentiments of certain academics who believe that Facebook, Twitter, and other social media sites are killing our ingenuity and intellectuality:

(I know the article was released a year ago — but it’s still relevant!).

Is social networking making us less human? I’m not sure about that claim, but I do think it is making it more acceptable to be online more and see people less. The Chicago Tribune recently published an article about good friendships and the benefits that come with them.,0,5445050.story

I think one of the most important elements of the article are what James Fowler, professor of medical genetics and political science at the University of California at San Diego, discusses toward the middle of the piece: “Every friend makes you healthier; every friend makes you happier,” Fowler says. “We’re not talking about your 500th friend on Facebook. We’re talking about your dearest and closest friends, and these people are hard to find.”

So, what are we to do? Social media is here to stay, but there needs to be balance between how much we’re online. Maybe there needs to be a personal analysis of who our close friends really are?

I just know that for me, while I like being able to post things online to friends and joke around online, there’s only so much time I can spend on the computer before grab lunch with a friend or just hang out and chat with someone.


P.S. Copy/paste the links because I am too dead to code them atm 🙂 yay you!

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ABOUT AF: speaker, yoga instructor, writer, editor, reiki teacher, intuitive, musician, artist Alexandra Foran: Alexandra is an enthusiastic yoga instructor who enjoys sharing the gift of yoga and meditation with people of all ages. She is flexible and accommodating to all as she leads a practice from the heart. Extending warmth and love to all is a blessing for her. Yoga has personally helped her to heal and grow in profound ways. Yoga helps create balance and harmony; as someone who is highly intuitive, empathic, and a sensitive being she used to often be ill and regularly overextend herself -- she now seeks the peace that yoga can bring to her practice and life. As a poet, writer, musician and artist she infuses different aspects of the creative arts into her classes to create a higher vibration. During particular segments of her classes she uses guided imagery and live music. Alex plays upright bass, electric bass guitar, electric upright bass, violin, guitar, drums, rainmakers, baby harps, singing bowls, crystal bowls, recorders, and didgeridoo. Alexandra is a certified yoga instructor and a certified Reiki Master.

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